When I went to visit Valentin I went into his room and made sure I loved on the other 3 children in there while the nannies changed Valentin's diaper and clothes. His diaper is always super full but today he had pee all over his shirt and down his leg. When they took the diaper off it was incredible how full it was, I have seen almost 4 years worth of constant diapers and never have I seen a diaper that full of pee. Some even ran onto the changing table. How long had he been wearing that diaper? Since I saw them change him yesterday? Could that be? No one wiped him or the table they just threw another diaper on him and put clean clothes on. I have not talked yet about the smell in his room and on him but you can imagine. Well imagine and then multiply it by 10. To be honest I am not sure he has ever received a bath since I fist met him. He had to have right? Maybe he has but there has never been a day that he seemed clean or did not smell. Can you tell I am just about done with him being at that place!
Anyway they put him in the stroller and I rolled him down the hall. In the room off the common area there was some sort of visit happening. There were teenage boys and girls in uniforms putting on puppet shows and singing and dancing. It was really fun to watch, until it dawned on me that children like Valentin never get invited to these sort of fun events. How hard would it be to put some of the special needs kids into srtollers (and I have seen that they have plenty of strollers there) and let them watch too? Why do they flat out ignore kids like Valentin like that. I really do not get it. And the more I see it the more I am saddened at how hardened people's hearts are. Today I just am tired of it.
But today whether they wanted him there or not Valentin got to see it. He of course would never be invited into the room but I turned his stroller to watch as he 'danced' to the music. He and I clapped along.
Us being there and watching was not well received and we were met with either stares or being ignored like we didn't even exist. Honestly guys I was just about in tears. I could not believe that disgust, judgement, and prejudice. I had to start praying or I was going to lose it. I just kept smiling at everyone and praying under my breath "God give me grace. Help me to show the same grace you have shown me. Salt and light. Salt and light. Salt and light."
And do you know what happened next? All the kids in the room were given a juice box and a candy. One of the teenage boys came out of the room and brought my Valentin a juice box and a candy. I cannot tell you what that meant to me and probably what it meant to Valentin. That tiny little act of kindness absolutely melted my heart and turned my day around. I could not believe this brave boy standing up for what is right and offering a special treat to my son. I don't think he will ever know just how much his tiny act of kindness meant or how I will never forget it or his face. Thank you God :)
I had a lot of fun at my visit with Joey and his groupa. I did not take any pictures or video but it was so cute as his groupa sang songs for me. There is one little girl in his group (the only girl) and she is so precious. She is non-verbal but just the sweetest thing you have ever met. He was trying desperately to sing the songs but was too busy blowing me kisses. Precious! Then it was off to play with blocks :) Remember that I was saddened that Joey was not speaking to me in Russian? So not the case now! He talks on and on at me. It is so hard because I want so badly to know what he is saying but he does not seems to mind, he just talks on and if he is asking me to do something he just shows me as he explains it to me. It is so cute, he is my little Russian teacher!
Gotcha Day is in 2 short days!!!! Tonight hubby will begin his trip back here, I cannot wait to see him and bust those kids outta there!!!